Before we have children, we have all sorts of ideas of what being a mother is going to be like:
Dirty nappies and sleepless night?
Blissful breastfeeding, gazing lovingly at your baby?
Long walks, pushing the pram, meeting friends and sitting in parks watching a toddler toddle about?
School plays, school gate friendships?
Picking out miniature outfits, washing them and hanging them out in the sunshine?
Family holidays by the sea, children making sandcastles and playing in the waves?
Love, love, love…
And much much more!
No, we never imagined being a mum would be like this. And I’m sure NOBODY EVER WARNED US! But here we are, acting like slaves to these tiny little dictators.
However, IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY!
We don’t have to be slaves, we can be mothers! We don’t have to respond to our babies’/toddlers’/children’s/teenagers’ every whim. We can put ourselves first on occasions (to pee or shower!). As long as we are bringing up our offspring with care and affection, surely it is okay to say, “No, I’m not doing that. Again.” You can still love your child, even when they’re wailing because you’re not doing what they want you to do. We don’t have to keep cooking meals until we find something they want. We don’t have to only do things that will make our children happy. We can put them in the car, even if they don’t like it, because eventually they will get used to it. We can go to the shops, (sorry dads), because it’s actually good for them to experience those new sights, sounds and smells.
If we never do the things that make us happy, we could end up being miserable slaves! So surely it’s better to spend time with our little ones, doing things that make us happy too, because if we’re happy, we will be better mothers and our little ones will still love us, and probably appreciate us and respect us more.